My advice would be to go easy on the stickblender. Take things nice and slow. Reaching trace is not a race. Give the batter a few bursts with the stickblender and then stir a little. Then blast it again and then stir again and so on. Watch your batter and see how it changes as you go, from the mixing, to the emulsification, to the trace. Get to know what the different stages look like and most importantly; ENJOY the process.
Also, don't go overboard with expensive butters and oils in the beginning. You can make a fabulous soap with everyday cheaper oils and they are good "practice" oils. Coconut oil, palm oil, olive oil and castor oil are good oils to begin with. Sunflower, lard and canola are also cheap and slow-tracing oils that will give you time to experiment as you learn to do more and more of the fun things (designs, swirls, etc.) without it costing you and arm and a leg. Make small batches. When you get the hang of things and learn what to look for and get a feel for things, then you can move on to faster-moving and/ or exotic oils and butters and all the bells and whistles that inevitably
will follow later on.
Miniature pieces of advice:
Rome wasn't built in a day.
Practice makes perfect.
And last but not least:
HAVE FUN!!