Post your Gripe

[Marilyn Norgart]

@amd tell her to suck it. I hate people like that. You do you! She's jealous is all.

My gripe is Divorce.........been coming for a long time....finally had enough. Filed and will hopefully be done in 60-90 days. Fortunately no kids with him. Depression and anxiety have set in 10 fold and I don't want to do anything.

so sorry you have to go through this but it sounds like its the right thing for you (just going off the statement that you have had enough) change is hard even if it is for the best. wishing you happiness cuz you deserve it {{{hugs}}}

 

[Zany_in_CO]

@amd My gripe is Divorce... Depression and anxiety have set in 10 fold and I don't want to do anything.

Aw, I'm so sorry to hear that, Shari. It's tough, no matter how you slice it. Staying busy, doing nice things for others, on a daily basis will help you get through it. I was 28 when I got divorced. I got out my watercolors and painted every day during that time. Threw them all in the waste basket. I was staying with Mom & Dad at the time. Mom rescued the paintings from the trash. For years later, whenever I visited a relative... including my ex-in-laws, I'd see one of my paintings hanging in a spare bedroom... or wherever.

Also, the best advice I received at that time: Just before walking into the court room, I ran into an old family friend who said, "Remember, love is lovelier the second time around."

Hang in there, lady. You got what it takes.

 

[shunt2011]

@Zany_in_CO - Thank you!!! The hard part is I'm almost 60. Not quite what I had pictured as my future. Been with him almost 23 years. I have an awesome support system in my daughter, parents and 2 littles (grandchildren). Won't ever do it again. Once and done.

 

[Misschief]

@Zany_in_CO - Thank you!!! The hard part is I'm almost 60. Not quite what I had pictured as my future. Been with him almost 23 years. I have an awesome support system in my daughter, parents and 2 littles (grandchildren). Won't ever do it again. Once and done.

(((((Hugs))))) Been there done that. I was in my mid 40's when I divorced my husband of 23 years. It was the best thing I ever did. It wasn't easy but I'm much happier now than I was then.

 

[dibbles]

@shunt2011 It's sad to close a chapter in your life, even when you know it is the best thing to do. Lean on your support system and look to the future. And we are all here to vent when you need to.

 

[amd]

@shunt2011 Oh, dear, I am sorry to hear that! It's hard when leaving is the only option left to make things better, but sometimes that really is the best thing. I was with my son's dad from age 19 to 26, even though we never got married, it was still hard leaving. But I knew he didn't want to fix anything and I couldn't live with the mental abuse any more, I didn't want my son to grow up thinking that was ok. What you're feeling is totally normal, just remember to NOT stay there! Even if the thing of the day is to go to work, and make yourself a meal when you come home. That meal is one thing that will take care of yourself. When you take care of yourself, you'll get back to normal faster. A new normal that doesn't include him, but includes many wonderful other things.

 

[earlene]

Shari, my best wishes to you and hugs to yourself and all who are providing the support you need.

Even in the best of circumstances, the end of a marriage is just simply not easy on us. In time, as I am sure you already know, it will be easier and you will surely get past this rough patch and the depression will lift. You are not a failure; you gave it your all and in the end chose your best, healthiest self, which is as it should be. You will be happy again. Now and then you will probably find yourself missing him or the 'idea of him' or the 'idea of companionship' etc., but it passes and you will be fine. And you will be happy.

 

[msunnerstood]

Migraine - First 4 hours, Flashing lights in my eyes, even with them closed, Blind spots in my vision, left side of body going numb, then the aphasia kicks in. I know the words Im trying to say mostly, but on the way to my mouth something happens and they turn random and slurred, at other times, simple words escape me even in my thoughts. After that comes the intense, pounding, even sharp pain and makes its home in my head for several more hours.

It is now hour 12, I am still typing dyslexic words and having to fix them and I am completely exhausted, like a mack truck ran me over and then backed up. Im sitting her with only the light of the computer screen on, in a silent room, wearing sunglasses with the anxiety of knowing there will come another on another day.

44 years of this gift and not a working medication in sight.

 

[Misschief]

Migraine - First 4 hours, Flashing lights in my eyes, even with them closed, Blind spots in my vision, left side of body going numb, then the aphasia kicks in. I know the words Im trying to say mostly, but on the way to my mouth something happens and they turn random and slurred, at other times, simple words escape me even in my thoughts. After that comes the intense, pounding, even sharp pain and makes its home in my head for several more hours.

It is now hour 12, I am still typing dyslexic words and having to fix them and I am completely exhausted, like a mack truck ran me over and then backed up. Im sitting her with only the light of the computer screen on, in a silent room, wearing sunglasses with the anxiety of knowing there will come another on another day.

44 years of this gift and not a working medication in sight.

Ouchie, ouchie... as a long time migraine sufferer, you have my sympathy. Be gentle with yourself.

 

[Marilyn Norgart]

Migraine

you poor thing--I cant even begin to imagine. hope it lets up soon

 

[Chris_S]

My car got stolen Tuesday at 3am. They got into my porch through an unlocked door then shoved a stick through the letter box in front door and then took the car from my drive with lots of beekeeping stuff still in there because i had just spent 12 hours splitting my hive and moving a beehive to a local church yard. They got caught on cam spending 10-15 minutes looking through the front window into the room i was asleep on the sofa and they were crouching down to see through the hole where the letter bix was before i decorated unfortunately because i was tired and in pain from 5 very accurate hits from my bees to the hands so i just got inside and just threw everything on stairs and didnt give it a second thought but its very very rare i ever leave porch door unlocked but it only takes one time for them to get lucky but o reckon they were probably stealing to order because of the type of car it was cant imagine an opertunitic theft would have them peering into two windows for that long. Unfortunately the cam footage only showed them looking into the window and wasnt clear enough to see faces but they kondly left the wooden stick they used to hook the keys on my drive. I dont know how i didnt hear them i was only in room next to stairs and it was a diesel so im also surprised i didnt hear the car being started i often wake up or am disturbed by doors opening and closing few doors down. Never had anything like this stolen before and was just dealing with it yesterday because i had too feelong like absolute shite today though think its only just really hit me of the realitiy of not having any transport and the best car iv ever owned being stolen like that just feeling so down

 

[earlene]

I hope they left fingerprints on the stick and get caught! The nerve. It is a horrible feeling of violation to have your property broken into and worse yet stolen! I am so sorry you have to go through this, Chris.

 

[Chris_S]

I hope they left fingerprints on the stick and get caught! The nerve. It is a horrible feeling of violation to have your property broken into and worse yet stolen! I am so sorry you have to go through this, Chris.

The police in the uk are so stretched that they dont seem to give a flying crap about things like car theft probably because of the fact they know insurence will payout then its just a matter of being lucky enough for police to spot it and catch occupants if they are daft enough to leave same plate on because i doubt they will do it could of been outta country before i noticed it. The police told me to picj stick up and put it in a bag but then said that i might hear from csi team to take finger prints. that was more than 36 hours after reporting it and iv heard absolutly nothing from them

 

[jcandleattic]

The police in the uk are so stretched that they dont seem to give a flying crap about things like car theft probably because of the fact they know insurence will payout then its just a matter of being lucky enough for police to spot it and catch occupants if they are daft enough to leave same plate on

Same here in most of the US. Hope you catch a break and get this resolved soon.

 

[earlene]

Well, I guess I'm lucky. In my small town the police will even deal with dogs loose in the neighborhood. A stolen car would thrill them to death! Would they find it? Probably, because around here, it would more likely be some kid joy-riding, than some chop-shop situation.

But not all small rural areas in the US are as safe as where I live. My son lives in a rural area is California, and cars get dismantled if left on the side of the road for too long after they break down. It's appalling, in fact, how fast it happens.

 

[Rune]

Same here, they don't have resources to investigate small things. Or they come and then file it as a cold case, or what it is called.

Last summer, I was having a break outside at work, and this guy came and sat beside me to chat. I went inside because I had things to do. The guy also went into the shop, and just before he should pay, he had "forgot" something in his car, so he ran out. And suddenly the police was in the door asking if we had seen him arrive, and if he was alone. I told them I had seen hime drive alone, park, come for a chat and went alone into the shop. More police officers showed up. They arrested him and investigated the car. It was stolen and he was the thief.

The police came because the guy who owned the car, a house painter or carpenter, had written on Facebook that his car was stolen, a picture of the car, and asked people to report to the police if the did spot it somewhere. The car originally had a company logo on it. The thief had painted over it, but it was still possible to read. So, someone had seen seen his stolen car outside the shop were I was working, and called the police.

That is perhaps something you can try, write a wanted ad on Facebook, and ask people to please share it, and to contact the police if they spot it somewhere. I guess it works best in more rural areas. And I guess it does not work in many cases. But I know it did work at least once. So maybe you are just as lucky.

 

[earlene]

My gripe: Old Eyes and Threading a Needle!

I swore I would never mend anything again after the hard time I had mending my granddaughter's tights last time I was in Texas. But hubby's pants zipper broke & I decided I'd fix it before remembering that. I even went out and bought a pack of 3 needle threaders (I had one break on me more than once, so didn't want to face that dilemma again) and some new needles with super big eyes. The drawback to large-eyed needles is corresponding thickness of the shaft, which means they're harder to push/pull through thick fabric. But I got it done with minimal cursing and not as much frustration as I anticipated when I first started. It's the initial needle threading that's the real hurdle. I even waited a couple of days for the rain to stop so I'd have enough light to see, but there's not enough light in the world to make old eyes sharp again!

 

[jcandleattic]

Due to our continual fluctuating weather I am having sinus problems with a sinus headache. Feels like someone took a sledgehammer to my face and smashed it. I've tried sinus relief medication, but it's just not helping.

@msunnerstood I so feel for you with Migraines. Usually the only thing that helps me when they get as bad as you describe (and yes described to a T as to how I get them) is to get physically sick to my stomach and that will help ease it a bit.

 

[MGM]

Well, I guess I'm lucky. In my small town the police will even deal with dogs loose in the neighborhood. A stolen car would thrill them to death! Would they find it? Probably, because around here, it would more likely be some kid joy-riding, than some chop-shop situation.

This reminds me of a comedian from my home province:

"The cops would ask, “Can you describe the man who robbed you? – Yeah, he was Dwayne.” Every crime solved in nine minutes. “Calling both cars, calling both cars, keep your eyes peeled for Dwayne. Last seen wearing that green sweater his sister made for him."

 

[earlene]

Oh, thank for the reminder, MGM. Amazon Prime has it and my husband likes it. I haven't seen much of it, so maybe we'll watch it after we run out of episodes on Ranch (netflix.)