thanks for all those helpful replies.
unfortunately i have learned the hard way, as I've had a couple of botch ups before writing this post.
first time I tried heating the beeswax with the oils, but it was taking so long, and I was worried I'd ruin the oils, so I took the beeswax out and melted it separately. then added it to the oils, but as someone said, it cools fast in the oils and makes little lumps. i managed to beat them out, but when I added my lye, my oils/beeswax were way too hot, the mixture looked lovely for about 3-4 mins, looked like it was tracing fine, then a few bubbles started, and I said to my little helper, quick run, open the door (we were in the kitchen) i got the pot out on to the dirt just in time for the mixture to boil over. oh dear.
also, I've been using 8 oz of beeswax for 3 pounds of oil, so I guess that is a bit much. my beeswax just smells so lovely i wanted the soap to smell nice too.
usually I soap with whipped soaps, so I don't melt my oils at all, but because I want to use beeswax in this bee and honey soap, I have to melt, and I find it so frustrating.
anyway, i did make a successful batch the other day, using 8 oz of beeswax and 8 oz of oil, 3 pounds of oil and a bit of gm, but its still a little stinky and i hope the beeswax smell will come through soon. lovely caramel colour
next batch i make, i'll use much less beeswax and melt it with the oils. I tried grating it, but its so so hard, i can't grate it.
oh the lengths we go to...
still i'm not going to let it beat me. i really want to get this one right, as i've heard the properties in beeswax and manuka are really good for the skin.
thanks again everyone.