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Welcome,
Jenn. I like the soapee
lye calculator the most, but I have used the others you mentioned and others in addition to that, as well. Actually SoapCalc does tell you how much lye and water to use, but you have to go to the second page to see the result, and maybe that's why you're not seeing it.
Soapee works on-the-fly and makes changes to the results as you make changes to the recipe, which is one of the reasons I like it so much. But they all have their good qualities. It's really a matter of personal choice.
As for making your own recipe, it's a matter of practice and doing as much research as you are comfortable with, using either soapmaking books or other methods of research. I started with soapmaking books I borrowed from my library and its agreement with other libraries in the state. I tried some recipes I found in books and online, using non-animal fats (vegetarian) and eventually started designing my own based on what I learned. It can take a little time this way, but it's fun.
I suggest making small batches of no more than 500 grams total batch size so that you can practice the process and so you don't waste a lot of materials if you end up not liking the soap. Make sure to allow for at least a 4-8 week cure for any soap you make before you make a decision if you really like it or not. However some soaps need an even longer cure to be at their best. Pure (100%) olive oil soap is one such soap that benefits from a very long cure (a year or more - for me I like it at 18 months or longer). Some soap is great at shorter cures. It depends a lot on the make-up of the fatty acids in the oils.
Read through the beginners section, especially the Sticky Posts, and the Lye Section Sticky Posts for more information to help you find resources to get you started on this journey. Also, when perusing youtube soapmaking videos, beware that although there are MANY really good ones, there are also MANY not-so-good ones on youtube. So just keep in mind that anyone can do or say anything and post just about anything they want on youtube (or facebook or just about anywhere) and you can't always be sure it's genuinely reliable what they are doing or saying. So I recommend following safety suggestions you find here at SMF when making soap. If you are unsure, ask and we will gladly give you well-though-out feedback on what works and what might not work so well.
Some good soapmaking resourses are all over this forum, so I won't even attempt to list them here. But here's a couple to start with:
http://soapee.com/calculator
https://www.modernsoapmaking.com/the-most-popular-fatty-acid-profiles-in-soapmaking/
https://classicbells.com/soap/soapyStuff.html