Ahhhhhhh.......this mommy wants to scream!!!

[NMAriel]

Well that's why walking out to the barn to feed the horses, and cats is like my time. I walk slowly soaking up all that nature is giving at that time. I pause and just imbrace everything. And that's why soaping is just for me. Today is a positive day, so I'm in the space of "everything will be fine". But when you have "one of those days" :cry: , wow it can bring you down.

 

[dagmar88]

It really is a shame things are so badly managed for kids like your son (and the parents!); in my country there are support, vacation, activity and 'stay over' groups (established by government grant in aid and gifts), which give parents room to breath...
Could'nt you try to fiend a mom near you who is in the same position and 'exchange kids' twice a month. That way you would have for example one afternoon per month for yourself & the other mom too.
Make soap undisturbed, take a long relaxing shower, read a book... :wink:
Just trying to think with you :wink: could well be that the last thing you need is another 'brainstorm' kid around the house

 

[starduster]

A moment in life but serious stuff

Hmmm me thinks this is not something to just let slip under the carpet.
It is relevant to soap in such away that a listening far off observer can help sometimes.
Gee I would be planning a move to Netherlands. You would be alone at first but you are now.
:idea: dagmar88 has illuminated the discrepancies between countries and come up with some good thoughts.
The others who have answered you have many good sugestions too.
I don't really know if the Netherlands would let you move there,I don't know their policies.
But there has to be a little corner of the world that would be kinder and more helpfull to you . Nothing is impossible .
In any difficult life situation we have to be our own best advocate.
You will need to scream for help not ask. The very next person or the third further down could hold the answer.
I have a book I have read and re read many times. It is called The Aladdin Factor by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen. I hope you can get that out of the library and read it. It gives you the strength to go on seeking answers till you find them.
All the best and I love the way you take the animal feeding time as your magical heart love time.
Mary

 

[dagmar88]

I believe the social system still works a little better over here than in the usa; but it's rapitly deteriorating :roll: And I'm seriously hoping yours will be improved now!
Everyone pays for everyone and when we all share we all have at least something :wink:
for instance, the normal price for health insurance is about €100 & 0 under 18. All people need to be insured and if not there are 'basic needs' clinics in the bigger city's. Gosh, when I read you pay :shock: and still are deprived of basic treatment.
I have to say though, the groups I spoke of are all founded by people who have to deal with ADHD in one way or another; a little help from donators & the government can go a long way
To answer starduster, totally off topic I'm sorry) there used to be a time almost everyone could come and live here; after the war we had to rebuild the land and many workers came in...
Now we have some trouble with 'adapation' and immigration is a little harder; you must have intentions to set up a business, a good change at fiending a job or move for health reasons :wink:

 

[craftykelly]

I have a 4.5yo, 3yo and 19mo, so suffice to say, I can only soap at night when they are all asleep and then on weekends (not every weekend) when DH is free to watch them for an hour. I know exactly how you feel though. I am home 6 days per week by myself with the same thing.

 

[tincanac]

I

I think I like soaping too much - so for that reason, I am definately not having kids!!! My husband, who has recently gotten into it too, concurs!

 

[craftykelly]

Re: I

I think I like soaping too much - so for that reason, I am definately not having kids!!! My husband, who has recently gotten into it too, concurs!

 

[starduster]

Re: I

I think I like soaping too much - so for that reason, I am definately not having kids!!! My husband, who has recently gotten into it too, concurs!

Soap, The new contraceptive.No side effects.

 

[Laurie]

I'd still take my kids any day over soap, and I love soaping alot.
I think I have a fever. What am I saying...I have a 15 yo in the house who thinks he knows everything. :roll: :roll: :roll:
But seriously children really stretch us and help us to be even more
creative.

Laurie

 

[Laurie]

I should have put

STRRRRRRRRRRREEEEEEEEEEEETTTTTTTTTCCCCCH
us.

 

[ilovethe80s]

That's pretty much how it is here

I have 2 active boys 2.5 and 10 months. I have pretty much abandoned soap for the time being - just can't do it! Something happens literally every 30 seconds around here. I still try to do candles but it will take me an entire day to make a votive. When it gets to pour temp, something happens - my toddler will attack the baby, somebody falls, they knock over the garbage... never a dull moment. So by the time I get back to the wax, it is below pour temp, I reheat and repeat the process.

When I actually do have some time (when they are either sleeping or someone else is watching them), I find that I am so busy doing the basic necessities (shower, eat sitting down) that there is not much time left over for any hobbies.

So my crafts right now (other than warped, desperate attempts at candles) are playdough, finger paints and Hungry Hungry Hippos. I have heard they get better as they get older, but reading the above posts, I'm not so sure, lol! It probably took me 10 30 second sessions to compose this post. You are not alone

 

[jbarad]

I have 6 kids, 4 at home yet ages 24, 20, 18, and 17. I would NEVER have even thought about soaping or crafting when they were young LOL

Now they're perfect guinea pigs I make something, take away all the other soap in the shower and put the one I made in, they have no choice but to use it ( even if it smells girly ) and then I chase them around the house asking what they thought of it.

My 3 granddaughters come over now and ask every time " is the soap done grammy ? " anything that's cured long enough they grab a bar of and take home so my oldest son and his wife are forced guinea pigs too

 

[NMAriel]

You ALL are just great. I've always made sure I didn't talk about the boys on here, because it's a soap board. Not a board for parents with disabiled/difficult children. I just didn't want to bum everyone out. But you guys are wonderful. Thank you so much.

Well yesterday we lost his therapist who saw him after school. I was panicked, but I have chosen to see this as god's moving us into something else. As they say, "A door has to close, for another to open". So for now we are going home Mon-Thurs after school and having 'family time'. On Friday the youngest's babysitter will watch both. Well got to go for now, so I'll finish this in a little bit.