When I made small lotion batches, I used pipettes to add the preservative and fragrance. I know it wasn't as accurate as weighing but I felt using milliliters still resulted in being close to the amount I wanted. I actually didn't use ml - I used drops and counted them. I might have added more preservative than was actually necessary but at least I didn't add way too much.
Here's a link to the type of pipettes I used. I didn't buy them from NG. I'm just using their site to show what I had.
http://www.naturesgardencandles.com/candlemaking-soap-supplies/item/pipe
According to the info on the NG site, there are 23 drops in one ml (For some reason, I have it in my mind that I came up with 29-30 drops to equal one gram.) I came up with this amount by counting the drops and then weighing the amount on a scale. So, I would use 3 drops to equal .01 gram. I have to admit my scale isn't the best so the amount I came up with could be off a bit. Possibly off a lot.
It was a pain so I ended up increasing my batch sizes so I didn't have to fiddle about with the pipettes. Also, the density of the ingredient would also affect the "weight" but this still shouldn't be too far off.
BTW, you don't have to spend a lot of money to get a calculator for small batches. I've seen jewelry scales on Amazon which weigh in increments of .01 grams. They're not expensive in my opinion - maybe $10+ with varied amounts for shipping.
eta: In such small batches, I think it would be very easy to add too much preservative. Most preservatives have been well tested but some people could find them irritating. Probably wouldn't be a problem but you also don't want to add more than you really need mainly because of the cost.