Well, I made my first oatmeal and honey soap this weekend. Thanks to all of your great input, it came out awesome! I didn't scent it because frankly, I didn't have anything good to scent it with. If I make some more, I'll order a honey type of fragrance for it.
I held back a little bit of the water and heated it up (boiled it, not intentionally) in the microwave. I added the honey to the very hot water and it melted perfectly. I then added that to the lye water at about 120 degrees. It turned an awesome color - like blood orange, or a really, really dark tea. And it got very hot, but didn't do anything exciting, like volcanoing or hissing. And it smelled really wonderful right after I added it to the lye water (seems strange because other people here said it smells funky). It had a very strong honey smell, which totally faded. The finished soap looks great and doesn't seem to have any scent. I was hoping maybe just a hint of the honey scent would come through, but it's still a great soap - and I'm such a newbie, that I get excited anytime I get a successful soaping experience.
Incidentally, I gently (not tightly) covered the mold with a thick towel. It didn't seem to be extremely hot, like I thought it might be because of the honey. It was just average hot, like the other soaps I've made, so I decided to insulate it. It gelled fully and looks smooth and uniform (except for the pretty specs of oatmeal). I used old fashioned oatmeal and chopped it fairly fine in the food processor. I added it to the soap at medium-thick trace.
Sorry for all the detail, but in case anyone cares, I noticed that the batch (only a 3 lb batch) didn't seem to be as much as the other 3 lb batches I made. I mean, when I poured it into my slab mold, it seemed like it might be too thin a layer. I just ended up pouring it into a milk-carton mold that I keep handy. It worked surprisingly well and the finished soap looks nice.
Thanks again to all for your wisdom and experience!