I confess that I have had to learn over years to give the other person what they need, in the way THEY need it, not how I might prefer to receive it.lol, wish I was you. I see so many designs in my head I want to do. Translating them to actual reality tends to be more difficult.
Compassion and empathy are needed in this world. Too many people are lacking that. It makes you human to care about others.
I was upset at first but felt better after talking to some here until I was attacked for asking for pity and effectively being lazy. I'm trying very hard to hold my tongue about some of the things that have been said to me and trying to be kind anyway. Life is hard enough without us tearing each other down. We are all in the same business and should be supporting each other.
Some call that “love language” but whatever it is called, I didn’t get for a long time why people could not receive the “help” I offered. “Direct and honest” to one personality is “rude and obnoxious” to another. Tone, context and style of delivery make a big difference, but so does knowing the person hearing it.
When I see folks being overly blunt, I choose to assume that they are clueless rather than ill-intentioned, as I used to be, and still can be. That helps me not to waste emotional energy on them, and instead appreciate or sometimes even come to like them. Sometimes