You can't infer anything useful from the flash point in the context of crafting. I've been hearing the same misconceptions for 10 years and witnessed many attempt to clarify it, but I'm sure the "burning off" idea will continue forever.
Flash point is a number that is derived from a standardized procedure to test flammability, but nothing special happens at that temperature except under the conditions of that test.
You are suggesting that flash point is directly related to vapor pressure -- the rate of evaporation -- but it is also related to how much vapor there needs to be for ignition to occur. Liquid A can evaporate more slowly than liquid B but have a lower flash point because it's simply more flammable and less vapor needs to be in the air above the surface.
Under the circumstances of soaping, evaporation is not significantly going to affect fragrance based on the volatility of one fragrance versus another -- especially when it's mixed into something else at 6% concentration. There's not enough evaporation to make a difference.
Temps are much higher in candlemaking, but people have not noticed any correlation with fragrance loss. Many of the same FOs are used, typical flash points are similar, and similar concentrations are used in wax as in oil. Candle mistakes are sometimes remelted to 180 F and poured again -- a torture test under which people have found that the fragrance is not significantly affected.