Please consider that what may come across as 'autocratic' and 'dogmatic' to you (or to anyone else in this thread) is simply our collective years of soap-making experience speaking. Those of us that may have come off as sounding that way to you have been making soap for a very long time (for myself, it's coming up on 13 years now), and to us 'oldtimers', there is really not too much that is new under the sun, because each of us have accumulated years under our belt from having made all kinds of soap using all kinds of ingredients, not to mention having done all kinds of crazy and weird and creative experiments with our soap, testing it to its limits, which we still continue to do, because we are creative people and soap is our passion.
Truly, we are not trying to rain on anyone's parade here. Believe it or not, we
want you to be successful in your soapy endeavors! We 'oldtimers' have actually been where you are now and can each of us recount having had the very same arguments that are being put forth here in this thread with the experienced oldtimers that came before
us when we ourselves were new to the craft and were taken captive by it, and felt the mighty pull of temptation to sell it before we were aware of
just how little we really knew about what we didn't know about the craft to even think about selling so soon out of the gate had we taken the time to know. Time and experience, though, have shown us that the 'oldtimers' that
we once thought were overly autocratic and dogmatic when we were new, were actually right and knew a thing or two or three that we either hadn't considered, or for some of us in our haste, didn't actually
want to consider if we were honest with ourselves.
For as long as this forum has been in existence, this argument comes up on average about 4 times a year, I would guesstimate (always started by a newcomer both to the forum and to the craft....not singling anyone out, just stating a statistical fact). And it's not just on this forum, either, but also over at the Dish forum and all the others I've ever been a member of....and they always tend go south rather quickly because of how passionate we all are about the success of the promulgation of handmade soap. In order to head such potential for disaster off at the pass (because we want this to be a civil forum!), we created a sticky a few years ago in the in the Announcements/Rules section under the heading 'SMF Culture and Tone' to give those new to the forum a 'heads up' as to what are considered by the main body of our membership to be the hot-button issues common to our community, and to caution that that if one decides to post about such topics, you do so at your own risk and to expect some passionate fall-out from it. I don't know if you have read the sticky, but here is the link to it:
https://www.soapmakingforum.com/threads/smf-culture-and-tone.56833/
IrishLass