I will say it is unlikely to be an allergy. I am not familiar with lemongrass oil but any EO is very unlikely to cause allergy as they are not amino acid/ peptide compounds. It could definitely be irritant as others have mentioned. And it could have become harsher with the heat involved in HP. You didn't react after the umpteen number of hand washes. Even after the shower you had the rash only on forearms, no where else. It is quite common for it to start in one place but generally ends up spreading all over the body if it is an allergic reaction. Which it doesn't seem like the scenario in your case. It didn't even happen after the patch test with neat EO, you just had a local reaction. It is very likely that it was just irritation, in which case a calamine lotion or some soothing oils like coconut are going to help more than say Benadryl. May be use less or no soap until it starts to heal. Why only your forearms were affected? They became easily irritable for some reason. It could be your cat as you say. Give it time. Try the soap after 4 weeks. Only on a small area first. If it still bothers you then you should give away the soap to someone who used a lemongrass soap before without issue. I doubt that would be the case. Good luck.