Waisbrod, I think much of people's frustration comes from the fact that we see some beginners look at the art of soapmaking as a simple thing. If you see a recipe, you see oils, water, lye, mix them together.....voila, you get soap, right? Well, yes and no. Those of us who have been making soap for any amount of time know that there is so much behind it. Yes, you can throw ingredients together and get a bar of soap. But do you just want to make an average bar of soap? You can already find those on the shelves in any store, and no one wants to pay a premium price for average. Or do you want to make something wonderful?
In that case, you need to go deeper. Learn about the oils and butters you use. Each one affects your end product in a different way. And there are additives you can use, like sodium lactate to make a harder bar, and rosemary oleoresin extract, which is an anti-oxidant, and many others. Learn about fragrance oils, and essential oils. Are some of them dangerous say, to pregnant women? You should know this. Milk soaps have their own set of rules. Will you use colorants? There are many different ways to color a bar of soap, some natural, some not. You don't use oxides in the same way you use micas, or clay.
You need to know about things like trace. What does emulsion look like, light trace, medium, oops, hurry and shove it into the mold. What is ricing? Is there anything that can be done? What caused your soap to turn that funny color? Can you just pour a bottle of beer and dissolve lye in it, or do you have to do something with the beer first? What caused those streaks? What are those orange spots? What does it mean if your soap looks like brains on top, what's that white powder on top, why is it cracked on top.......oh there are so very many things to know. I could go on and on. You should know what these things are, how to avoid them, and if they happen, how to deal with them.
It's because we've made soap for a long time, and have probably encountered many if not all of these situations, that it frustrates us when someone comes along and wants to do it all instantly. We know that it's not possible to make good soap in a hurry. You can do it. But you need to slow down. I've had people get annoyed with me because they've asked me how they can make soap,and when I start going into detail, they assume I'm just trying to make it complicated so that they won't attempt it. They were thinking that they could just run home and whip up a batch for themselves. Soapmaking is easy....and it's complicated, at the same time.
But like I said, you can do it. Study the ingredients. Learn to use Soap Calc. Read all you can. Make practice batches, and tweak them until you have a recipe you can be proud of. Read all you can. When you run up against a wall, ask for help here. And once you've done all that, then you'll begin to understand the frustration of people who have been doing this for a long time, when someone comes along and wants to do it overnight. Many of us consider soapmaking an art to be practiced and perfected. It's something we love and feel passionately about. One day, you may feel the same way. Good luck to you!