Septober sux

[jarvan]

Ok, so this is the place where I soap that I bubble over. Honestly, I got into soaping because it's something I have to focus intently on when doing it and my mind can't be anywhere else. That's good because when I started soaping, it wasn't long before that my son killed himself and 10 days later, my dear aunt (like a mom to me/my mom died years earlier)died as she was in such as state after my son died. Now, it's Septober again and Andy's father announced he's moving to Florida, also, Andy's business owner was found floating in one of the local lakes yesterday, and Andy broke his favorite sunglasses. This week is our anniversary (21st) and also the anniversary of our son's death. Can anyone recommend a way to remove these two months from the calendar so life can feel good again? Just had to vent. We all have our stories. This is mine. Actually, there's a ton more to it, but this is the reader's digest version.

 

[Saltysteele]

oh, wow... sorry, jarvan that's terrible!


i'm at a loss of words

maybe you could make a batch or two every year during this months in tribute to them? i don't know, maybe it's a stupid idea to some. lavender reminds me of my grandmother, and i've though of making a soap in tribute to her with my lavender buds that are coming.

 

[Melodee]

Jarvnan, I'm so sorry you're going thru such trials right now :-(

I understand what you mean about soaping as therapy though, I'm kinda using it for the same purpose; as my son also has recently caused me great pain. With soap, I have to focus, so my mind cannot be elsewhere. I too find, it gives me the opportunity to "escape", if you will.

I've learned not to say "things cant get any worse" cause - oh yes - they can! But, then again, things can always get better!!

Again, I'm sorry, I hope things take a turn for the better real soon.

Melodee

 

[heyjude]

Vent away. We're here to listen. Wish I had something to add that would ease your sorrow, but just know that you've lots of people who care about you on this Forum. Sending good thoughts your way.

Take care,

Jude

 

[ChrissyB]

Jen I'm sorry that you have been through the things you have, I had no idea. Soaping is great therapy because it causes you to totally focus on it, you cannot let your mind wonder or we all know what ends up happening.
Take the time this "Septober" to do something memorable with your partner/family,, even if it's just going to the movies and having fun, or having a weekend away or something. Make some new memories.So that next time septober comes around, you'll remember the fun you had this year, not the pain you went through last year.

 

[Guest]

I am so sorry for the sadness you feel in these months . Hugs and just know we will be here for you if you need to talk about soap or life or anything . Sept is not a great one for me either . I think we all have months that we wish would not appear on the calender. Making soap or researching it , is one of the best therapies I have found .

Hugs
Kitn

 

[IanT]

Sending you hugs from across the airwaves

 

[Rosey]

Jen I am so sorry. The only advice I have it to maybe find a group that you can talk with or a counselor.

I am so sorry *hug*

 

[topcat]

*{{{hugs}}}* from me too......

Tanya

 

[vivcarm]

Thinking of you.

 

[carebear]

oh Jarvan - hjugs from me.