"...I use 1 bar Fels Naptha (grated) to 2 c washing soda and 3 c borax and use 1 tbsp per load. I read in the other forum that you use 2 parts CO to 1 part borax and 1 part washing soda and use 2-4 tbsp per load. Is the difference in ratios due to it being homemade soap? ..."
Opinionated personal opinion here, so take it for what it's worth!
My take on the bloggers who share these recipes is they're mostly regurgitating what others say without bothering to do any homework. The recipes that mix a small amount of soap with borax, baking soda, and washing soda are not very effective. Recipes calling for 1 TBL or less of soap mix per washer load, especially in a traditional washer, are not really doing much cleaning. These recipes are going to freshen lightly soiled clothes, so if you work in an office, this might be tolerable. But recipes like this simply not get enough soap into the washer to do a decent job of removing much body oil or greasy soil.
Baking soda has no place in any laundry mix. Washing soda or borax will do the job just fine.
Washing soda should be used in DRY laundry mixes. It breaks down in liquid mixes during storage and becomes ineffective.
Borax should be used in LIQUID laundry mixes. It is the alternative to washing soda for a liquid formulation.
There should be a decent amount of soap in proportion to the other ingredients in the mix.
Use enough to get effective cleaning. If you're using 1 TBL per load and having to pretreat often for greasy or dirty spots, you probably need to use more mix. The same also goes for washing in hard water -- soap is less effective and creates a gray soap scum that can build up in fabrics. You may need to use more soap mix, wash in warmer water, and/or add a separate water softener product.
My recipe is 50:50 mixture by weight of soap and washing soda. I dislike measuring by volume, especially when dealing with shredded soap -- it packs down or fluffs up way too much for a volume measurement to be accurate. I also use an oxygen-bleach powder (Oxyclean clone) either blended with the soap and washing soda mix or added separately to each load as needed.
I use 2 to 3 TBL of the basic soap and washing soda mix per load. I have an HE washer, my water is soft, and this works pretty well. If I mix the oxygen bleach powder into the mix, I use equal parts soap, washing soda, and oxy bleach and increase the amount of powder used per load to account for the added oxy bleach powder.
My last batch of soap for the laundry was 70% CO and 30% lard, but 100% CO is a very good choice. I use zero superfat. I grate the soap just as soon as it is firm enough to handle -- maybe 18 hours or less after it's been poured into the mold. It may be warm and even a bit zappy at that point, but I wear gloves and work with it anyway. I grate the soap with my food processor and lay the shreds out in large flat pans to cool and slightly dry while I grate the rest of the batch. If I heap the shreds in a bowl, the shreds in the middle stay warm and damp enough to stick together, and I want them to stay loose and fluffy.
After the soap is shredded, I then change to a blade in the food processor and fill the bowl about half full with 1/2 soap shreds and 1/2 washing soda. I process the soap mix until the shreds break down into a fine powder. It takes about 30 seconds per batch. I'm looking for the soap to be the size of table salt so it dissolves fast, even in cold water. If it's more the size of coarse cracked pepper, it's not going to dissolve quickly enough. I put the finished powder back into the flat pans to cool and dry before packaging the mix into a large tub for storage.
If the soap starts to ball up in the processor bowl rather than break down, that means the soap is getting too hot and soft so it is smearing together. The solution is to stop, add another big handful of washing soda, and try again.
ETA --
I add an FO when making the soap just like I would for a regular bath soap. The scent is nice in the mix, but dissipates in the wash. Same goes for EOs dropped into the food processor while powdering the soap. The scent doesn't linger in the clothes.
I just pour the soap into my usual loaf mold. When I get it ready to shred, I cut it roughly into shapes that fit into my food processor chute. It doesn't need to be fancy.
If you weigh the solid soap -- not the shreds -- it's easier!