No need to take offence. But it really does depend on the recipe and what's in it. Some recipes can handle more heat than others, some get hotter faster than others, the ambient temperature matters, etc. How hot is too hot for a soap can't be specifically answered, there is too many variables.
Is it just scented with OMH, or does it have OMH in it? Honey heats soap faster, milk heats soap faster, sugars no matter what they are in will heat it faster. With milk soap, you generally don't want to gel it, because it can get too hot and volcano out of the mold or crack, and the soap is generally darker as well.
You just have to watch it, pay attention to how it looks, and if you think it's getting too hot, it probably is.